surviving shelter.

Life is all about expressing your thought and feelings. There are some people who have feelings but there are no one who can understand their feelings because they have the language of emotions but not the language of words.


While I was wondering along with my friends inside my campus, I saw puppies beside the sewage channel. It was about 8-degrees temperature outside and we were freezing even after having too many clothes on the body. All the puppies are so close to each other to warm up themselves because there is nothing beside their body heat. At that moment, we feel so pity for them because we can see their emotions and can read that pain in their eyes.

Roadside puppy
A Roadside Home


The situation has two solutions, either we share our shelter for them or we can inform those people who are authorized for taking care of roadside animals. But we preferred another option we made a beautiful house there only. We also arrange food for them.


After some days we met a different situation because of our different schedule. We have to report to our college every day from the morning to the evening and if there is any plan we fixed then we have to go outside the campus. In this case, we were unable to take care of those puppies so we decided to attract other people so that if no one among us is there for them then there will be someone to take care of them.

 A Shelter of Love 


Slowly, everyone starts arranging food and as well as clothes for them. Seeing that beautiful arrangement by people, lot many puppies of different doggies are started coming. Some people afraid of adopting roadside animals but with this idea, we feel successful for giving them a survival shelter. We all have to understand, taking birth on the roadside isn’t their fault. They also have a heart anđ emotion like other classified animals.

Waiting for your LOVE

If you are not adopting the roadside animals then it’s doesn’t matter but at least we can give them shelter, food, and clothes to save their life. So we should have some soft corner for them who have no corner in our society.

Stress on Rest

“Stress is a response that your body gives after releasing chemicals into the blood. Itputs the mountain on your body and mind and creates an illusion for yourthoughts”. Stress is dangerous partly because after some time people get usedto it. “The size of stress getenlarges when we keep on saying that he is in stress”. The mind hasthe power of controlling the whole body. It’s kind of process of boiling water,every time when you say stress in your mind the temperature of the body keepson increasing and reach to the destructive level. When you completelyoverheated then everyone afraid to reach to you not because they don’t want tobe with you but they fail to understand your inner vibrations.

When you are in stress, you make mistakes and mistakes become accident and to burn out this you consume alcohol and drugs. If your nature completely adopts stress then that makes you violent and you start doing harassment with your surrounding.

Stress on Dollar   

In biological terms, you measure your stress in terms of hormone secretion by the adrenal gland. 70-80% health care expenses are based on stress-related issues. Most diseases, we suffer from is all because of taking too much stress and not taking healthy diet. The more you take stress the more misbalances on hormones in your body. The doctors will give you a pill for your disease but you are the only person who knows how to cure yourself.

  • Creation of stress
  • Uncertainty about career
  • Overwork, overpressure, disinterest are created when you are working and in that case, you need a stable environment.
  • Poor feedback for your best-initiated word
  • Tsunamis on the relationship
  • Lack of appreciation and responses, you deserve in your mind
  • No control over the situation
  • Life trauma and many more

The sign and symptoms of stress

  • Difficulty in taking a good sleep
  • Poor concentration on work
  • Noticeable errors
  • Aggressive and violent nature
  • Overeating and after that overweight
  • Emotional outburst
  • Anti-social behavior in a proving manner
  • Excessive consumption of alcohol and drug
  • Self-isolation (making yourself blocked in four walls)
  • Believing on saint’s discourse more than yourself
  • Laziness
  • Craving for having sex

Stress Management

When your stress overflows then that becomes a depression. Anger and frustration can be replaced by action and tangible accomplishment.

  • Use humor

Try to connect your world with funny different perceptions.

  • Exercise

The opposite of stress is rest and of depression is happiness. Stress sucks energy from your body but by doing exercise you feel energized.

  • Drinking water

When you are stressed, your body needs more oxygen and in the result, you feel dehydrated and suffocated. Due to this, you suffer from kidney related diseases.

  • A good night sleep
  • It releases pressure from your body as well as from your mind.
  • Enjoy your own company
  • Eat healthy food
  • Take lukewarm water in the early morning
  • Listen to the relaxing music but not that lyrical music
  • Talk to positive people, who motivates you
  • Dress so nicely whenever you go out
  • Write your thoughts on the paper
  • Walk barefoot on the grass
  • Talk to nature, it’ll reply you

The concepts of energy in life

Rather than Defining about the life, define the energies inside you

The energy neither be created nor to be destroyed, it just transforms into one form to another form and this is called the law of the conservation of energy. The whole universe runs in this phenomenon only. So many facts and truths are revealed by this law of conservation of energy. Dealing with this law in our life make life fascinating.

Life is all about learning, gaining experiences, giving happiness and many more aspect. As we move forward in our life we meet different people every day with a different mindset. Their actions and behavior affect us a lot if they are connected to us. dealing with them and their problems are much important than dealing with your inner peace. Everything in this universe or out of the universe is a energy.

In the field of career

Body, soul, thoughts, imagination, success, failure, love, hate, everything is the energy only.  Every person has one dream in their thought but as they grow up they change their stream of the dream. And after some time we are caught by depression and other mental issues. We feel sometimes, whatever we are doing is just a waste of life and waste of time and with this continuous thought process we get demoralized and demotivated. But as the conservation law said that the energy you gain on doing another job is not the waste of life or time. It just, how efficiently you manage your depression to the courage. You store that energy in the different form and later on that energy makes your dreams fulfilled.

In the making  of relationships beautiful

When our relationships are healthy, we radiated positive energy in our surrounding and when our relationships are not healthy in that case we radiate negative energy for the people. That negative energy also stay in the universe only because we cannot destroy it and live with positive and negative energies makes our heart and mind got confusing. If you are suffering from negative energy trauma then you must learn to transform that negative energy into the positive one. And once you got master on doing that hen no one can ruin the beauty of your relationships.

In the making of mind peaceful

Peace of heart and mind is the most precious thing in the whole universe. We can’t buy or sell this but we can help someone to make them realize the power of conservation. Peace of mind is directly proportional to the positive energy of heart and mind.  “The conservation law says that how much you transform the negative power into the positive power that much you feel peace in your mind”. 

In everyday research

Life is all about finding new things and doing research for the development of creature around us. When it comes to execution these thoughts then we easily infected to those who have negative thoughts about life. When we discover or invent anything then in process of doing that we transfer our internal energy or the environmental energy for executing that. While doing that we must try transferring our maximum potential so that we can efficiently use their results but for doing that firstly we need to understand the concept of our internal and external energy.

In dealing with universe factors

Everybody is aware of the universal law. Every time we feel and experience that energy law but we are failed to understand what is exactly happening with us and who is responsible for that. “When we send negative energy to the universe then after some time we need to face that negative energy but in the different forms and this is sure that you have to face those circumstances”. The same thing happens with positive energy as well. While you are dealing with the energies you must have to understand those basics concepts of the universe. Sometimes we feel that we are only facing the problems and the other one is happy. But eventually you are dealing with those universe energies which you would have to send sometime and somewhere and after a certain time, you forgot about yourself dissipating those energies.

“There are so many concepts in life but one thing we need to remember while sending or transferring energies from your side because at the end of the day you need to face all the consequences or before the end of your life or even after that”.

Turn your Insult as an Idolization

We all are surrounded by beautiful souls, who radiate different vibrations for different people. Some of them radiate positive power for us and some radiate negative powers. I observed that most of us capture that negative vibrations in our heart easily rather than the positive one. Majority of our time spend in hating them or to think about, how to get over them. Insult is highly negative power which diminishes the real power in you. And the one who radiates got success on doing those tactics on you.

I remember when the first time I experience the power of insult. That wasn’t me who initially feel it’s an insult, this was another person who makes me realize that the words they said are an insult.

I consider insults are those pebbles which were thrown to divert you from your destination.  But as an instant process when someone throws those stones on you then you start reacting on those or try to escape or you throw them back. Which one you choose totally depends on your attitude. But moreover, this is very important how to maintain your inner peace when someone insults you. In this blog, I’ll explain the mindset of those people who insult you and how to respond to them by keeping your mind and heart in peace.

The reason why they insult you:

Insecurity

As I explained that an insult is a powerful tool which is used to attenuate your strength and to make you feel like a weak person. As much as you grow in your career or in your field, nobody will like you and will try to overcome you and when they fail in doing that then they start insulting you for your every move. So that you can’t grow on that speed in which you are growing.

Jealousy

Jealousy in people is common nowadays. Whenever you’ll do anything new or got achievement in your life more than them, they will feel like insulted in their own way and in response they will bounce back that energy to you.

Lack of understanding

In this case when you have your own thoughts and you express in front of them in your words then sometimes lack of understanding makes them feel like insulted and in response, they will use negative words for you in the form of insult so that they can overpower your thoughts.

Playful Teasing

Playful teasing most of the times are in between the friends only. They insult you show their love for you. But sometimes it becomes negative to them because every word has numerous sense. So be careful even when you are insulting to your buddy because you never know in which mood they are.

How to respond insult:

  • Stay calm and react less as much as you can. Because sometimes responding with no words has many words you speak.

 

  • Express, how you exactly feel so that you can easily cut out that person in your life. But be polite in your words so that their responses can’t affect your internal peace anymore.

 

  • Simply ignore, to use this technique for once or twice because you have much important work to do rather than responding them.

 

  • Use humor, because with this you turn their insult with no energy. And without energy their insults are powerless.

 

  • Report insult; if someone insults you in the social media or social atmosphere then you can’t simply ignore or respond. In this case, you have to report that insult.

 

  • Indulge in self-care; In this case, you set your proximity zone where nobody can steal your inner peace. That you exactly want for yourself at the end of the day.

With your EX

Move on when it’s gone

Making love and falling in love is easy but moving from your relationship can be a different challenge or you. From the age of innocence to the golden age we can easily find out different kind of love stories and breakup stories. To feel the beauty of love and inherent that in the heart is easy but on the other hand to feel the pain of separation and to delete all that memories on which you live upon is much more difficult. To understand some experiences you have to face it first but rather than facing that experience we can concern about few things on which we can work upon to get over from this hard experience.

The breakups have two forms, first is that we take a decision by our own self and that is called a healthy breakup. The reason could be anything your family, society or anything. Second is when our priorities changes and practicalities take over our mind. These things depend on your attitude, behavior, circumstance, betrays any of the sides. In the second case, only one suffers and in the first case both the partners suffer. But it doesn’t mean that the level of pain is different in any of the cases.

The breakup is a process, which is hard to feel and hard to leave too. Because you are addicted to your partner in your daily routine so to fill that empty place takes lots of time, patience and love. This is just like a theory of the electron, for being a neutral person you have to fill the negativity with the equal amount of positivity. Once you take a decision for being broken up then moving back is not worth and good. When it’s gone then move on. I shared some of the keys to handling the breakups trauma, this will not heal you but to help you to come out from this pain.

 

  • You know you are addicted but the best way to mold your addiction is to make yourself busy with your work and family.

 

  • All the time you try to type her/his number, but at that moment remember that pain for which to separate yourself from her/him.

 

  • Be happy from inside and outside, this will not even heal you but also give you the power to move on.

 

  • Don’t put status for her/him that how much you feel the pain just because of her/him.

 

  • Don’t let them feel that you miss her/him, even if you miss badly.

 

  • Forcefully you can’t go off with the memories you spend together, you have to leave all the memories with happiness, not with the pain. You have to be mentally prepared for what you are doing with yourself.

 

  • When you start living happily then he/she will definitely spread the net of emotions that how much she/he misses you or need you in your life but do not get affected because she just loves your present situation.
Once you take the decision of moving on then don’t get affected by anything and never think to go back. Be firm on what you’ve decided not on what you’ve left. The breakup is a decision which is taken once and when taken then there shouldn’t be any place to move back.

 

I learned this from my hostel classroom

Chapters to be continued…

Hostel time is a classroom of experiences, the experience of life. Wherever you go, you fall, you stand and learn how to walk this is a circle of life. After that, you made your rules according to the priority for living life. Just like all, I learned so many lessons from my hostel life and to share them with you guys will make me feel pleasure. And I’m sure these small lines will surely make big difference in your life.

Getting the success and the achievements are different but learning the lesson of life is a different thing. You will never know when small things will become a large thing and sometimes to understand that you need to go beyond your peace and imagination. People will use you and will take the advantage of your care and innocence. This will become a slow process if you ignore the instruction give below about your inner peace of the life.
When we enter the room first, everything seems to be yours and all the people will behave like you are with your best innocent buddies. And later on, we keep sharing about the life for being close. Yes, some people will be good and be like you but to understand this you need to give a proper time to understand them before making any bond with them.

  • Never trust the people at the time of your initial days.

 

  • Never share your personal problem and secret at a very early stage. No matter how best he/she is. At least give 7-8 months to your friendship to differentiate between real and fake one.

 

  • Never try to be mediocre, if you try to be then you’ll become the victim of the situation.

 

  • Never trust the one who tries to be overfriendly or cares too much.

 

  • Never care too much for anyone because once you are mistaken at any moment, they will ignore all your efforts and care and will remember your unfavorable part until the end.

 

  • Never react to the situation so early because you never know who is provoking you or trying to make you as a victim.

 

  • Try to complain less about any situation. Less complaining will lead you to less vibration of peace.

 

  • Never try to involve in calling in the late night at the starting. This may resist your craving or pleasure but trust me this will save you from the garbage minds.

 

  • Always remember your motives, for which you are there. Put your more focus on that rather than any pleasure or distractive matter.

 

  • Always maintain a proper distance from negativity and negative people. They will come to you in the form of attraction and distraction and both are dangerous to you.

 

  • People will try to impress you by giving compliments and appraisal but it is your responsibility to understand the motives behind that. For this, you need to accept that compliment with a big smile but not to be affected by that.

Everyone tries to be king in front of all and for that, they will try to push you down to show them up. You can also be a part of tactics of some bad peoples but the best way to detach yourself without overreacting.

These are some point which I feel I should adopt but some situation isn’t our hand they heel by the time only so without worrying maintain all your focus on your aim rather than any game. And trust me with this you will win your race without defeating anyone and be repeating any mistake.

 

conciliate your controversy

Where there are thoughts there must be clashing over thoughts, called controversy. This has two phases, one that opposes the dominating view or rules so that no one can fulfill their self-will and in the second category those people come who can’t accept the change and that become the origin of controversy. Sometimes this becomes beneficial and sometime this delayed for making any good change for future.

We face controversy at every step, whatever the other one doesn’t like that become the controversy. Some got affected and some become the victim of it. We can’t say that this is good or bad but it is most important to face every controversy very wisely and happily. This could be a matter of discussion or the argument.

Today I’m here to help you out to face the controversy issues…

  • First, listen then reply but do not react.

 

  • Keep calm yourself because they want to control your mind.

 

  • Don’t let anyone enter your tranquil zone.

 

  • The one who listens to the end and then react that becomes the king.

 

  • Faith in your thought is important but never hesitate to welcome the other one’s thoughts.

 

  • Every thought has two vision with this you can convince the other one without superimposing.

 

  • Focus yourself on the conclusion rather than proving yourself.

 

  • Respect the other one’s thoughts and if they have better thought then accept them and if not then help them to keep out of the situation but do not criticize.

 

  • Some people don’t want to listen to your thought even, for this you need to improve your convincing power on your faiths.

 

  • When it’s the matter of taking a decision then listen to every thought but do whatever your inner faith says.

At your every action people want to control and if you don’t listen or follow them, they make a controversy against you but don’t worry do your action, have faith and one day you will definitely win your war. Life is all about playing your role so try to face every situation no matter how hard it is. Sometimes controversy tries to lag you but have faith but never prove your faith.

Finding a secure place

I’m not safe here…

This is an urge from a brother to his sister for not keeping her safe but to keep himself safe.  The number of rape victims is increasing day by day. I don’t know the initiation of this raunchy and monstrous crime but one thing I know that the whole earth is crying.

The situation is getting worse day by day. Every minute in the world a girl is being harassed. In ancient time people feel blessed to have a girl, they think that a goddess comes to their home by nowadays people are afraid of having a girl as a child just because of the present situation.

Whenever I opened a news channel every time I found a girl victim suffering from this trauma. Parents think that they aren’t safe outside but inside there is no place for her.

Brother is considered as a guard of sister but nowadays he is demanding his protection. people say that girls are not protected in this world but today’s situation is like that a boy with a girl is not protected.

The monsters are running everywhere to hunt an innocent soul as they hunt their protector also. What kind of lust is this…?? They are hunting the one who gave the birth, who made us.

Psychology says that the one who did this heinous crime lost their mental awareness. They consider a girl as a prey and their lust and the monster inside them does everything. But who knows one day you can also be a prey of someone else. This is a chain, once put your first step in the mud, It is sure that your sins will follow your footprints and will reach to you one day.

I remember one crime, a school girl was going back home with her brother. She had been raped by a gang and later killed by them in front of her brother. Her brother was also killed by them. What were the feeling and the situation she was feeling when she was with her brother? I know she was feeling safe with her brother but that become a repent for her because her brother was killed because of her.

This is a very sensitive matter and we should talk and make every individual aware of this sensitivity. Every human being is special, no matter what gender you are having but there should respect and sense of protection for every human being. There is no book no theory, this is all about your seeing the God’s creatures.  

Mood swings in Men

Generally, we heard that girls have mood swings before their menstrual cycle but we never observed that boys have too. In the case of girls, they draw more attention to you before their periods. Their behavior and actions are visible and noticeable. These all changes are scientifically proven also and happens because of the hormonal changes during that time.
In the case of men, they don’t have periods but have the period of mood swings which we rarely noticed. Some men have short-term mood swings and some have long-term. But we girls rarely noticed it because we think that they have been changed completely by their behavior. But I’ve bird eye view for this situation. It’s a matter of understanding if you love and care for someone, then you need to understand some factors about mood swings.

Long-term mood swing:

In this category, men who are suffering from career settlement, family problems or any other trauma comes. When everything settled down their phase for mood swing also ends. But some women fail to understand and thinks that as their a permanent behavior. This isn’t a permanent behavior this is an undesirable situation in which they need our full support to come out.

Short-term mood swings:

This category is very normal and happens almost to every man. This doesn’t come by any specific hormonal changes so this is very unusual and no one noticed even. During this time their behavior becomes aggressive, overprotective, sarcastic and many more. In a simple way, they unfollow their nature and start behaving bizarrely. So rather than fighting with them, we should love them more and more to help them out from that situation.

Behavior under vigilance:
  • They will try to fight more and more in a very stupid matter and later on they themselves laugh on that.
  • Reflexive reaction is very common during this period.
  • They will refuse to be physical in that certain time.
  • They will expect sensibility more in that situation.
  • Every time doubting your work.
  • Perfection mode is on for their soundings and loves ones.
  • Sometimes they’ll try being wild to show their dominance.

Every man has different behavior so their mood swings also change varies with time and so as their time duration. So these modes can be and can’t be your partner’s behavior but mood swings are very common in men also.

 

lack of time

Do we have a lack of Time?

We have already heard a lot that time never waits for anyone. Till now we have touched unapproachable sky limits under and above. We are working to make Mars as our second home. But beyond all this time is the only thing in which people have no control over it.

For a better survival in this world, money is the leading factor. We spend our whole day and night to earn money and at the last, we even don’t have time to spend it wisely and happily. I met many people facing this exact situation but they made themselves happy in a very smart convincing manner. We sacrifice our family time to make our family happy. We even don’t take proper attention towards our health and we called that we don’t have sufficient time for this. But we are right that we don’t have time to live in a fast running and unstoppable race of the world. We don’t have time to eat, sleep and breathe even. We are aging by time and mind but our soul is caged in the net of time.

I’ve talked to many people from different areas and about 98% are suffering from stress. For this, we can follow many easy steps which I’m currently using. This isn’t about hard and fast rules or any philosophical method. For living life just a little bit awareness about yourself is sufficient. If you are office working, then being single-minded for work can make your time stressful. We can start wishing to those to whom we never talk and to can be sarcastic in the middle of the work. Smiling is the best way to make your stressful time even more light. That is your atmosphere so why can’t we make it a happy environment.

Electrolyzing of time for relations and work can help you to live in a better way. Leave your entire work pressure and aggression till the office border only and while you are leaving office then make sure that you are now completely detached. While entering to home attaches yourself with those relations for whom you are living, laugh, eat, sit together and gather memories. All the success stories, love stories start with the time and end with the time only so rather than focusing on earning stress we can concentrate on living life. And remember lack of time is not the problem flowing of time in an uncertain way creates the problems.