With your EX

Move on when it’s gone

Making love and falling in love is easy but moving from your relationship can be a different challenge or you. From the age of innocence to the golden age we can easily find out different kind of love stories and breakup stories. To feel the beauty of love and inherent that in the heart is easy but on the other hand to feel the pain of separation and to delete all that memories on which you live upon is much more difficult. To understand some experiences you have to face it first but rather than facing that experience we can concern about few things on which we can work upon to get over from this hard experience.

The breakups have two forms, first is that we take a decision by our own self and that is called a healthy breakup. The reason could be anything your family, society or anything. Second is when our priorities changes and practicalities take over our mind. These things depend on your attitude, behavior, circumstance, betrays any of the sides. In the second case, only one suffers and in the first case both the partners suffer. But it doesn’t mean that the level of pain is different in any of the cases.

The breakup is a process, which is hard to feel and hard to leave too. Because you are addicted to your partner in your daily routine so to fill that empty place takes lots of time, patience and love. This is just like a theory of the electron, for being a neutral person you have to fill the negativity with the equal amount of positivity. Once you take a decision for being broken up then moving back is not worth and good. When it’s gone then move on. I shared some of the keys to handling the breakups trauma, this will not heal you but to help you to come out from this pain.

 

  • You know you are addicted but the best way to mold your addiction is to make yourself busy with your work and family.

 

  • All the time you try to type her/his number, but at that moment remember that pain for which to separate yourself from her/him.

 

  • Be happy from inside and outside, this will not even heal you but also give you the power to move on.

 

  • Don’t put status for her/him that how much you feel the pain just because of her/him.

 

  • Don’t let them feel that you miss her/him, even if you miss badly.

 

  • Forcefully you can’t go off with the memories you spend together, you have to leave all the memories with happiness, not with the pain. You have to be mentally prepared for what you are doing with yourself.

 

  • When you start living happily then he/she will definitely spread the net of emotions that how much she/he misses you or need you in your life but do not get affected because she just loves your present situation.
Once you take the decision of moving on then don’t get affected by anything and never think to go back. Be firm on what you’ve decided not on what you’ve left. The breakup is a decision which is taken once and when taken then there shouldn’t be any place to move back.

 

Decode your partner’s language

A common language of Men and women’s understanding

In the whole world, men say that it is really difficult to understand women and women keep complaining about what men are trying to say. Lot many sarcasm is there for understanding men and women vocabulary but still no results are there. But I must say, in this universe men and women are totally a different creature, their way of thinking, emotions, reaction, behavior, attitudes and facial expressions, all are completely different for the same situation.

Through a research, it is found that if women and men stuck in the same situation then their way of handling situation is completely different they follow the nature’s rules. Women find the solution by keeping heart and mind factor but in the case of men they use 90% of their brain only to find the solution. Their heart and emotions come secondary.

Let us take one example, If there is one intruder like an animal, enters to your home then women think of protecting their family without hurting that animal but men have a quality of hunting and protecting both so at that instant they will think of protecting their family by killing that animal. Their emotions will not affect the decision of protecting the family. It doesn’t mean that they don’t have heart or they are cruel it just an attitude of seeing and handling things because different creature responds differently. This is a set rule of nature.

Nowadays these nature’s qualities have become hard to understand but it’s ok. Today I’ll explain some basic quotes which may make your life easy and understandable toward your partner.

Women’s brogue:

  • If women say ‘YES’

    then don’t get distracted, actually, she is trying to say a ‘Big NO’ and vice verse.

  • I think we need to buy this for us…

Actually, she’s saying that I Badly need this for me. And I want it now.

  • Do whatever you like my baby.

Don’t be happy guys, she’s actually giving a threat that you have to pay for all your sins later in my perfect moment.

  • I think we need to talk seriously.

Boys you are in danger because this time she’s well prepared with a long list of complaints with different attributes that you even can’t imagine in your dreams. And it’s sure that no one can protect you except some almighty powers.

  • I think you need to learn how to communicate with a girl,

    A very famous one, Boys I must say, Just simply say, Yes baby you are right. Play on a safer zone if you want to sleep happily in the night

  • What you can do for me if you love me.

Time to check your pocket and to invest all your savings on her. Good luck

  • NO NO, I’m not sad. I’m perfect, don’t worry.

Actually, she’s is trying to say YES YES I’m in big trouble and you need to do something for me. Actually, in this case, a healthy communication works a lot. Women have a quality of oozing problems just by sharing and after that she makes herself pacific, calm and motionless for some time.

  • I’m not ready for this before marriage

    It means you need to work hard to convince her to make some love. By gifting, making her comfortable, listening to her all the time and arranging a short trip make this happen for you… MAYBE

  • Let’s get married

The highest commitment by a woman explains that you need to be settled according to the need of her family status. So put your shoes on and go to the work and earn money.

  • What you think that I’m getting fatty more and more

I think you need to find a blindfold this time and then put it on your eyes gently, take a deep breath and say… No baby you are looking perfect, I mean this dress is looking fabulous on you.

Men’s brogue:

  • YES, I need this

    It means that yeah I need this. Give it to me. It is that simple that we girls don’t think about it. So be easy on this.

  • I love you, baby…

These fantastic lines come when he is in a deep desire of intimacy. Men never wait for the happy mood they just make it anytime.

  • My mind isn’t working baby…

It reveals the desire and demand for making love. Even if you aren’t in the mood then make this happen to make his mind light and sparking again. And in the morning he will be your slave again.

  • Ok, Let’s get married

I think this time men totally get tired of making love once a month now they need it for all your night and days.

  • You are looking sexy

 Actually, he’s imagining you naked and he’s in a deep yearning of making night colorful.

  • I’m busy right now

Then he actually needs some alone time. So girls don’t think that he’s ignoring you and want to a breakup or something else. He simply needs some alone time and nothing else.

  • I’ll call you later…

It’s a small demonstration that he is in middle of something or with someone. Just give him some time and he will surely call you back with lots of love.

Today I try to decode some common quotes from men and women. These are some simple way of understanding your partner’s feelings and thoughts. And I believe that this small spark is enough to light up all the garden of love.

 

Love or Lust…??

DOES INTIMACY REALLY DEFINE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP??

Love, the symbol of purity, loyalty, and trust is imprisoned in everyone’s heart. In this universe, everyone is connected by a supernatural power,  i.e. called LOVE.

In teenage, fallen in love is very common. We strongly believe at first sight, love. But now a day’s love has many needs. The definition of love has been changed totally. We heard lots of stories of ancient time about immortal love, but now those messages aren’t meant for knowing values, but caged in a storybook or in historical place or somewhere encrypted on ice. But my question is, does love need any kind of physicality to prove that they are in real love..??

Through a case study, I observed that now a day’s most of the people are getting physical before they fall in love. There are two types of people who believe, before and after marriage intimacy concept.  Just because lack of knowledge and amelioration they have forgotten the real value of love and intimacy. Intimacy is much more than to get in bed, it is that kind of power and symbol of purity which gives birth to a new world. But to understand this we need to get into the arena of love. These two concepts are made by us to protect the humanity and form misleading of teenagers. So we should respect all these values.

Before marriage intimacy is very common nowadays and this vision is not despicable, we just need to understand all pros and cons of it. A little awareness can help you a lot. In teenage everyone wants to go with the flow, but for us it is a little bit difficult to understand all these taboos. So for this, we can ask our self once, Is that right time and place?? The answer of this question definitely can lead you in a right direction.

After marriage people start thinking that they have been authorized for doing this. But I think marriage is not that certificate or license for free intimacy. It’s an inner feeling which comes after a certain time cause this is beyond bliss. Intimacy can never make your relationship healthy, it is that kind of feeling which comes after being healthy in a relationship.

Reading all this, I think you can understand what actual healthy relationship is. So do care,  protect and love to your partner. Cause love has no dimension. So make each other free to have a healthy and happy relationship cause this is not you need, this is what you need to each other.