With your EX

Move on when it’s gone

Making love and falling in love is easy but moving from your relationship can be a different challenge or you. From the age of innocence to the golden age we can easily find out different kind of love stories and breakup stories. To feel the beauty of love and inherent that in the heart is easy but on the other hand to feel the pain of separation and to delete all that memories on which you live upon is much more difficult. To understand some experiences you have to face it first but rather than facing that experience we can concern about few things on which we can work upon to get over from this hard experience.

The breakups have two forms, first is that we take a decision by our own self and that is called a healthy breakup. The reason could be anything your family, society or anything. Second is when our priorities changes and practicalities take over our mind. These things depend on your attitude, behavior, circumstance, betrays any of the sides. In the second case, only one suffers and in the first case both the partners suffer. But it doesn’t mean that the level of pain is different in any of the cases.

The breakup is a process, which is hard to feel and hard to leave too. Because you are addicted to your partner in your daily routine so to fill that empty place takes lots of time, patience and love. This is just like a theory of the electron, for being a neutral person you have to fill the negativity with the equal amount of positivity. Once you take a decision for being broken up then moving back is not worth and good. When it’s gone then move on. I shared some of the keys to handling the breakups trauma, this will not heal you but to help you to come out from this pain.

 

  • You know you are addicted but the best way to mold your addiction is to make yourself busy with your work and family.

 

  • All the time you try to type her/his number, but at that moment remember that pain for which to separate yourself from her/him.

 

  • Be happy from inside and outside, this will not even heal you but also give you the power to move on.

 

  • Don’t put status for her/him that how much you feel the pain just because of her/him.

 

  • Don’t let them feel that you miss her/him, even if you miss badly.

 

  • Forcefully you can’t go off with the memories you spend together, you have to leave all the memories with happiness, not with the pain. You have to be mentally prepared for what you are doing with yourself.

 

  • When you start living happily then he/she will definitely spread the net of emotions that how much she/he misses you or need you in your life but do not get affected because she just loves your present situation.
Once you take the decision of moving on then don’t get affected by anything and never think to go back. Be firm on what you’ve decided not on what you’ve left. The breakup is a decision which is taken once and when taken then there shouldn’t be any place to move back.

 

I learned this from my hostel classroom

Chapters to be continued…

Hostel time is a classroom of experiences, the experience of life. Wherever you go, you fall, you stand and learn how to walk this is a circle of life. After that, you made your rules according to the priority for living life. Just like all, I learned so many lessons from my hostel life and to share them with you guys will make me feel pleasure. And I’m sure these small lines will surely make big difference in your life.

Getting the success and the achievements are different but learning the lesson of life is a different thing. You will never know when small things will become a large thing and sometimes to understand that you need to go beyond your peace and imagination. People will use you and will take the advantage of your care and innocence. This will become a slow process if you ignore the instruction give below about your inner peace of the life.
When we enter the room first, everything seems to be yours and all the people will behave like you are with your best innocent buddies. And later on, we keep sharing about the life for being close. Yes, some people will be good and be like you but to understand this you need to give a proper time to understand them before making any bond with them.

  • Never trust the people at the time of your initial days.

 

  • Never share your personal problem and secret at a very early stage. No matter how best he/she is. At least give 7-8 months to your friendship to differentiate between real and fake one.

 

  • Never try to be mediocre, if you try to be then you’ll become the victim of the situation.

 

  • Never trust the one who tries to be overfriendly or cares too much.

 

  • Never care too much for anyone because once you are mistaken at any moment, they will ignore all your efforts and care and will remember your unfavorable part until the end.

 

  • Never react to the situation so early because you never know who is provoking you or trying to make you as a victim.

 

  • Try to complain less about any situation. Less complaining will lead you to less vibration of peace.

 

  • Never try to involve in calling in the late night at the starting. This may resist your craving or pleasure but trust me this will save you from the garbage minds.

 

  • Always remember your motives, for which you are there. Put your more focus on that rather than any pleasure or distractive matter.

 

  • Always maintain a proper distance from negativity and negative people. They will come to you in the form of attraction and distraction and both are dangerous to you.

 

  • People will try to impress you by giving compliments and appraisal but it is your responsibility to understand the motives behind that. For this, you need to accept that compliment with a big smile but not to be affected by that.

Everyone tries to be king in front of all and for that, they will try to push you down to show them up. You can also be a part of tactics of some bad peoples but the best way to detach yourself without overreacting.

These are some point which I feel I should adopt but some situation isn’t our hand they heel by the time only so without worrying maintain all your focus on your aim rather than any game. And trust me with this you will win your race without defeating anyone and be repeating any mistake.

 

conciliate your controversy

Where there are thoughts there must be clashing over thoughts, called controversy. This has two phases, one that opposes the dominating view or rules so that no one can fulfill their self-will and in the second category those people come who can’t accept the change and that become the origin of controversy. Sometimes this becomes beneficial and sometime this delayed for making any good change for future.

We face controversy at every step, whatever the other one doesn’t like that become the controversy. Some got affected and some become the victim of it. We can’t say that this is good or bad but it is most important to face every controversy very wisely and happily. This could be a matter of discussion or the argument.

Today I’m here to help you out to face the controversy issues…

  • First, listen then reply but do not react.

 

  • Keep calm yourself because they want to control your mind.

 

  • Don’t let anyone enter your tranquil zone.

 

  • The one who listens to the end and then react that becomes the king.

 

  • Faith in your thought is important but never hesitate to welcome the other one’s thoughts.

 

  • Every thought has two vision with this you can convince the other one without superimposing.

 

  • Focus yourself on the conclusion rather than proving yourself.

 

  • Respect the other one’s thoughts and if they have better thought then accept them and if not then help them to keep out of the situation but do not criticize.

 

  • Some people don’t want to listen to your thought even, for this you need to improve your convincing power on your faiths.

 

  • When it’s the matter of taking a decision then listen to every thought but do whatever your inner faith says.

At your every action people want to control and if you don’t listen or follow them, they make a controversy against you but don’t worry do your action, have faith and one day you will definitely win your war. Life is all about playing your role so try to face every situation no matter how hard it is. Sometimes controversy tries to lag you but have faith but never prove your faith.

Finding a secure place

I’m not safe here…

This is an urge from a brother to his sister for not keeping her safe but to keep himself safe.  The number of rape victims is increasing day by day. I don’t know the initiation of this raunchy and monstrous crime but one thing I know that the whole earth is crying.

The situation is getting worse day by day. Every minute in the world a girl is being harassed. In ancient time people feel blessed to have a girl, they think that a goddess comes to their home by nowadays people are afraid of having a girl as a child just because of the present situation.

Whenever I opened a news channel every time I found a girl victim suffering from this trauma. Parents think that they aren’t safe outside but inside there is no place for her.

Brother is considered as a guard of sister but nowadays he is demanding his protection. people say that girls are not protected in this world but today’s situation is like that a boy with a girl is not protected.

The monsters are running everywhere to hunt an innocent soul as they hunt their protector also. What kind of lust is this…?? They are hunting the one who gave the birth, who made us.

Psychology says that the one who did this heinous crime lost their mental awareness. They consider a girl as a prey and their lust and the monster inside them does everything. But who knows one day you can also be a prey of someone else. This is a chain, once put your first step in the mud, It is sure that your sins will follow your footprints and will reach to you one day.

I remember one crime, a school girl was going back home with her brother. She had been raped by a gang and later killed by them in front of her brother. Her brother was also killed by them. What were the feeling and the situation she was feeling when she was with her brother? I know she was feeling safe with her brother but that become a repent for her because her brother was killed because of her.

This is a very sensitive matter and we should talk and make every individual aware of this sensitivity. Every human being is special, no matter what gender you are having but there should respect and sense of protection for every human being. There is no book no theory, this is all about your seeing the God’s creatures.  

Mood swings in Men

Generally, we heard that girls have mood swings before their menstrual cycle but we never observed that boys have too. In the case of girls, they draw more attention to you before their periods. Their behavior and actions are visible and noticeable. These all changes are scientifically proven also and happens because of the hormonal changes during that time.
In the case of men, they don’t have periods but have the period of mood swings which we rarely noticed. Some men have short-term mood swings and some have long-term. But we girls rarely noticed it because we think that they have been changed completely by their behavior. But I’ve bird eye view for this situation. It’s a matter of understanding if you love and care for someone, then you need to understand some factors about mood swings.

Long-term mood swing:

In this category, men who are suffering from career settlement, family problems or any other trauma comes. When everything settled down their phase for mood swing also ends. But some women fail to understand and thinks that as their a permanent behavior. This isn’t a permanent behavior this is an undesirable situation in which they need our full support to come out.

Short-term mood swings:

This category is very normal and happens almost to every man. This doesn’t come by any specific hormonal changes so this is very unusual and no one noticed even. During this time their behavior becomes aggressive, overprotective, sarcastic and many more. In a simple way, they unfollow their nature and start behaving bizarrely. So rather than fighting with them, we should love them more and more to help them out from that situation.

Behavior under vigilance:
  • They will try to fight more and more in a very stupid matter and later on they themselves laugh on that.
  • Reflexive reaction is very common during this period.
  • They will refuse to be physical in that certain time.
  • They will expect sensibility more in that situation.
  • Every time doubting your work.
  • Perfection mode is on for their soundings and loves ones.
  • Sometimes they’ll try being wild to show their dominance.

Every man has different behavior so their mood swings also change varies with time and so as their time duration. So these modes can be and can’t be your partner’s behavior but mood swings are very common in men also.

 

lack of time

Do we have a lack of Time?

We have already heard a lot that time never waits for anyone. Till now we have touched unapproachable sky limits under and above. We are working to make Mars as our second home. But beyond all this time is the only thing in which people have no control over it.

For a better survival in this world, money is the leading factor. We spend our whole day and night to earn money and at the last, we even don’t have time to spend it wisely and happily. I met many people facing this exact situation but they made themselves happy in a very smart convincing manner. We sacrifice our family time to make our family happy. We even don’t take proper attention towards our health and we called that we don’t have sufficient time for this. But we are right that we don’t have time to live in a fast running and unstoppable race of the world. We don’t have time to eat, sleep and breathe even. We are aging by time and mind but our soul is caged in the net of time.

I’ve talked to many people from different areas and about 98% are suffering from stress. For this, we can follow many easy steps which I’m currently using. This isn’t about hard and fast rules or any philosophical method. For living life just a little bit awareness about yourself is sufficient. If you are office working, then being single-minded for work can make your time stressful. We can start wishing to those to whom we never talk and to can be sarcastic in the middle of the work. Smiling is the best way to make your stressful time even more light. That is your atmosphere so why can’t we make it a happy environment.

Electrolyzing of time for relations and work can help you to live in a better way. Leave your entire work pressure and aggression till the office border only and while you are leaving office then make sure that you are now completely detached. While entering to home attaches yourself with those relations for whom you are living, laugh, eat, sit together and gather memories. All the success stories, love stories start with the time and end with the time only so rather than focusing on earning stress we can concentrate on living life. And remember lack of time is not the problem flowing of time in an uncertain way creates the problems.

 

 

Five essences are essential for life

Life is creative if you think of creating  with these five essences

We have already listened to so many theories about the life scenario. We, the people have the quality of seeing the same thing differently. “One can see the hope of life in the dark and death in the flourished park”. Life isn’t about your existence in the earth, Its all about your hope, desire, imagination, willpower, and positivity. These five essences can fragrance your soul completely.

If I talk about birds they keep immigrate themselves in the search of food, place and family safety. I see those five essences in them.  We all consider yourself as an intellectual people because we have a developed mind but after a certain saturation, we try to find a place where we can have peace and happiness in our life. Yes, I consider that birds don’t have developed mind but they have developed a heart. They actually know how to find happiness under and over the clouds. In between the beginning of the existence to the peaceful death, the journey they travel inspired to each and every people. I’ve listed some essence which I feel for you all

beginning of life
  • Find your deep roots, your origin, your existence first.

 

  • Happiness is over the cloud, Do not wait for clearing that horrible cloud just go and find your happiness.

 

  • The best pain healer is smiling so smile when you can’t.

 

  • Think above your need, demand, and weakness that can never make your life sanguine.

 

  • Trust is the most important thing, invest in yourself rather than investing in others.

 

  • Money is like a flowing water, you can’t have the same rupee in your hand. Once it has gone, it’s gone just like the moments of your life.

 

  • Everything in this world we can purchase but not the peace of mind, this you have to earn by spending some alone time with yourself.

 

  • Invest your time in the wellness of humanity and spend your time on the happiness of your family.

 

  • Keep your learning mode on. There are so many beautiful souls around you so try to catch one brick from them and make your life creative.

 

  • Life is so creative so explore your every single zone and I’m sure you’ll find something different at every step to create a peaceful structure.

No one can predict what is life about but I’m sure these fundamentals surely can give you some beautiful structure.  Do believe in doing things and finding things, this isn’t about going on a mission and working hard for this. something small creation can create a huge dimension. You know your destination of life so rather than filling up your mind with garbage and thinking all the time of removing it, try to divert your mind for collecting these five essences.

JOURNEY FROM PUPPY TO MY BEST FRIEND…..

When I sound newborn puppy then whose heart not gonna melt. My love for puppies is something different. Dogs are lovable in every phase (younger ones to elder ones). when anyone thinks to have a pet a very first word comes into mind ie. DOGs. They can be your best friend and as your protecting guard.

I’ve remembered that day when I welcome a new member in my family. He was two months born baby having innocent eyes and beautiful face. After a few days, he started jumping everywhere in the home. For me, it takes much time to accept that he’s one of us but his behavior, care, and deep selfless love seize everyone’s heart.

Some people say that you can trust dogs but not on a human being but its hard to believe until unless you won’t feel this feeling. As I used to go school made so many friends in there only and the time spend with them was memorable to me but when it comes to faith and love and endless care then I always remember to my buddy. He knows my smell from a mile distance and when I come back to school he jumps like the happiest person. Even if it’s a dark night and everybody is sleeping then he never slept until he makes me feel like sleeping.

He had a good sense of feelings, if you’re sad he knows it if you are happy he knows it, if you’re feeling alone then he knows, if you need protection then he knows it. Every time when you feel to talk or you need somebody then he always tries to make you feel happy.

Reading emotions

He is hard as stone and soft as snow. When he saw anybody walking beside our home then he barks like hell. That time I feel like he’s protecting the border of countries. He knows very well how to protect the territory of the family and to make this happen he’s ready to do anything.

He knows his mistakes, When he does any mistake and realize it then surprisingly he behaves like the most innocent person in this world. No matter how louder you are he sits and listen to all your anger and once he senses that you forgive him then he started jumping and roaming everywhere.

He understands our language of love. Sometimes we fail to understand his feelings but he never does. He communicates with a strong telepathy. Only by seeing my facial expression he knows how to behave with me.  Sometimes he gives all the solution to my problems without saying anything. That’s why I called him a definition of best friend.

I’ve heard so many sacrificing stories about the dog. How they sacrifice their life for their family protection. I’m sharing all this because I want to tell you all that spread love to that one who understands the language of feelings. If you saw any dog who’s in need then protect and facilitate him. Not only the dogs whoever you see that is in need then do for them selflessly.

He always gives me the lesson of life, he left his family for us and involve with us completely. When he took his first step into my family, he was just a puppy for me but now he has become my best friend.

 

 

A Way to happiness

Follow your heart and break all the social prison

A way to happiness

Happiness is not what we can see, happiness is that what we can feel. The most costly thing in this world is time and at this time to earn happiness is hardest. But we people find a way even actually and sometimes happiness find us. But sometimes we behave monotonously. To earn happiness you need not bother about money, enjoying in the weather, listening to the bird’s chattering, feeling the power of the air, seeing the raindrops, all these things affect us for powering up the soul.

I’m sharing all this to make you feel that this isn’t just a rainy season. It is much more than anything, This is the way to happiness.

When the weather is cool then we find those things which energize us like having coffee, samosas, sweet corns. Ahh… all these things inherent those feelings which nobody can describe in just a few words. If you are just sitting in home and working all the time on the laptop, watching television and instructing everybody to do your work then you are blocking your happiness. Go find a place which soothes your mind and I’m sure that this beautiful weather will support you definitely. Some easy ways we can follow to make this happen.

  • Not just talk over the phone, go and meet your buddies.

 

  • Don’t follow the car, go with the bikes on the long empty road.

 

  • Hygiene is good but this time try to eat roadside food and that will surely make your day memorable. And it could be your favorite food also.

 

  • Forgot to put your rain cost with yourself and let that make your buddies crazy as you are now.

 

  • Follow the music of rain and dance to the fullest and I’m sure if you never ever tried this then this gonna be a terrific moment for your whole life. Try all this with your family and make them crazy too.

 

  • Try to make your food as followed by the ancient methods like our grandmother or great grandmother used to make the food. This will ignite the excitement in the heart of kids.

When we grow older then these thing doesn’t affect us a lot. We think that as stupid things or we feel that this could be an awkward moment for us. But trust me that kid is still alive in the heart anywhere, we just need to free it from the social prison. Your mother, your father, your grandfather, I mean to everybody who hesitates to do this. Involve them and make their day also memorable. This is the feeling you can never ever have in the summer days or any other season so enjoy this little happiness and capture this in your heart. Do romance, care, love, dance because this day not gonna come again.

 

 

 

 

For smoking, Just sit that’s enough

In the era of advancement, we are developing such devices which do our task and to give us some relaxing moments. In this list, teenagers come first. They just want to sit and relax all the time. After entering the home most of the time we spend by sitting only. Sitting gives us the most relaxing position. We did our most of the work while sitting only. Though this position is relaxing but not beneficial to your health and as well as the development of your mind.

I’m relating sitting as a smoking. This doesn’t mean that I’m stopping you to do relax. Relaxing and feeling pleasure while sitting is a different phenomenon and we all must do but for a certain time.

I’m relating too much relaxing with a waste of time and your health. Most of the time we sit and do gossips on the least important things like the life of celebrities, stories of daily soaps and people’s life stories. Actually we all love enjoy doing this but this is producing a slow poison in your mind that makes it sluggish.

Your life needs something productive from you but by wasting your time on these pieces of stuff leads you to make you feeble-minded.

Every sec is important so categorize your time, do gossip, do relax but for a certain time. For an office going people, It’s hard to manage the time but categorization of time is possible. In the case of teenagers and students, smoking is as sitting and wasting their time. Make yourself busy and keep on improving yourself at every moment. For smoking you need not a cigar, sitting and wasting time is enough to sick your time.